Free To Be Me!

I recently attended a women's conference, called "Free to Be Me". It was absolutely life changing for me! Although I have to be honest and say I went with a 'spirit of expectation'-still I got much more than I thought possible.


It's amazing to me how much emotional baggage we carry around through out our lives,yet pretend that we have it all together. I would venture to say that most of us don't have a clue who we really are,because the true you is often hidden beneath a warrior mask-to shield yourself from the world around you.


I'll be the first to admit, being vulnerable isn't easy. Especially when you've been hurt. But creating a persona based on the horrible events of your past can actually hinder you from creating a glorious future. Maybe you were called ugly and stupid as a child. Molested by a family member. Abandoned by your first boyfriend because you weren't ready to have sex. What do you do with that hurt? Do you bury it deep inside you and pretend it didn't happen, Or do you share that experience with someone you trust-to explore the possibility of getting help and letting it go?


So many women are in bondage to hurt, abuse,depression, and low self-esteem-yet rarely ask for help. These same women are mothers, wives, successful businesswomen, teachers, doctors, lawyers, and probably even the first lady of your church or ministry leader in your place of worship. Healing doesn't come because you show up to work and get the job done. Healing doesn't even come from being ambitious. In fact, what most of us consider ambition is actually a cover up to prove that we can do it, and we are not stupid!


Don't get me wrong-I am not speaking against determination or perseverance. But your actions never justify your motives. Are you single because you've been hurt and you're so drenched in bitterness that if a man looked your way you would spew all that resentment on him? Or are you the workaholic who stays busy because you refuse to focus on you?


This conference gave me the opportunity to open up about who I've become based on things that happened to me in the past. I'll give you an example. I was a very promiscuous teenager and young adult, who had no idea how to exist in a relationship that didn't include sex. Now in my 30s I realize that this wasn't anything to be proud of, and it actually distracted me from pursuing my goals. I was consumed by relationships, always feeling like I just had to be with somebody. Because of this hunger-I usually settled for way less than I deserved, and always felt empty inside after the resulting breakup.


I found that I'd become a huge mass of broken pieces. And while I can't go and get all my "pieces" back from various men-I opened up the space in my heart for God to restore what I felt was lost. Now I understand that emotional intimacy can be fulfilled in all sorts of ways. And Love does not equal sex! I love me, and don't needed to be validated by spreading my legs. And you know what? Beautiful Mosaics are made from broken pieces of glass!





For more information regarding conferences like these, visit http://freetobemeinc.com/





VersAnnette Blackman


Founder


Heal..Empower..Motivate!